If you take a look at children today, you will find
that they are tiny little adults that are hard to understand at times. They are
happy one moment and they feel sad the other. They suffer from emotional
extremes and it is very hard for you to understand what they need and want.
Wayne
Imber-The basic needs of children
Wayne
Imber is a doctor in
the field of developmental psychology and he says that children are born with
the basic emotional human needs. They need to develop a positive self-esteem
and feel loved all the time. If you are a parent, it is very important for you
to ensure that your child is loved and made to feel wanted. It is crucial for
you to communicate with your child with kind words and compassion. This will of
course support the positive growth of your child.
He states that children have the strong need to be
loved from the day they are born. The child feels fragile and needs the
constant attention of adults and elders to feel safe. The adults and caregivers
that take care of the child need to feed, comfort and make him or her feel
valued. The loving care and attention that the child gets will help him or her
to survive in this world.
When children grow up they need to continue getting
this love and attention. For example, if a child is showing you a drawing, he
needs you to give him positive feedback. However, if your child fails at Maths examination, he needs your loving
support to understand that there is much to learn and he is still valuable.
This will help him or her to regain confidence and give the examination again
with renewed energy and trust.
Ways
to spend time with your child
Communication is very important for your child to
understand love and care. It is crucial for him or her to trust you and make
eye contact when you or they speak. You should always respond to queries and
creations with deep interest to display that he or she is valuable and
important to you.
When it comes to children, they need affection. A
lot of kind words, hugs and kisses are very important for them. The child must
feel loved and wanted. Children need to believe that you accept their mistakes
and feelings. They need unconditional love to grow into balanced and
responsible individuals. You should always avoid negative adjectives like
telling your child that he or she is lazy or not good at all. This will really
hurt the child and make him or her feel bad. These are small things that you
need to be aware of as if you are not careful, you will hurt your child’s
self-esteem and worth giving rise to behavioral issues in the future.
As parents, Wayne
Imber says that you
should avoid comparisons. It is crucial for you to make your child feel
special. You should also not criticize a child all the time. This gesture will
make him or her feel flawed and useless.
